Pawan’s story goes beyond classroom management strategies and deals with misbehaviour in children and what really can cause a change in behaviour of the child.
IF YOU ARE A TEACHER..
- When you find a unruly student trying to disturb your class. Stop teaching and give him a steady glance. Sudden silence in between the teaching and all eyes turning towards him, would stop him from whatever he was doing
- Walk towards his seat and stand very close to him and give him a stare . Close physical presence always deters children and they have trouble continuing the mischief.
- Instead of negative command like “Stop talking there” Give a positive command like “ Pawan now you get up and tell me what I have to do as my next step in this problem”
- Always move around the class and once in a while compliment the children especially, the usual trouble mongers like “ Good, you have taken down everything” Or “your handwriting is looking better today”
- Never enter into an argument. The student is waiting for that chance to escalate the situation and disturb the whole class, If it is not a serious disturbance , best thing is to ignore him.
- Never rebuke a child and use personal insults on his ability/his past behaviour. Remember “Every day is a new day” should be your motto. To motivate them to make a change , you have to first instill the faith that they have the same chance of hearing as any other student in the class. As I said earlier..Difficult students need to feel like regular students before they can start behaving like regular students.
IF YOU ARE A PARENT..
You know some kids are just built stubborn or strong-willed . Or it may be just one of those days, when your child won’t cooperate. Each child goes through a phase where you know that straightforward methods of getting them to follow directions or behave often don’t work. They want to be in charge. But, of course, so do you!
- Whenever you want the child to do something always go near him and talk. Never shout from the kitchen “Rohan, it is time for your food ball class . Get ready” In all possibilities you would find him still watching the TV after ten minutes. Get the work done by standing and waiting in his vicinity.
- Never scream at the child. Once you raise your voice the child can only sense your emotion and not the command.
- Never insult or abuse the child. Children get deeply hurt by your rebuke.
- Right from three years old, LEARN TO RESPECT YOUR CHILD. While you teach the children to respect all seniors, all the help in the house …remember , the best way to teach that to the child is when the child himself is treated respectfully. (if unsure, think for a moment if your friend’s kid behaved in this manner, how would you reach? Is the reaction more forceful/disrespectful ..just because he is your kid?)
- Use encouraging, supportive words, rather than threats, to help take the “fight” out of the argument.“Of course you can go out to play, you just have to quickly clear up the toys.”
To sum up every student and child is unique. But kindness and calm is contagious whether in a family or in a classroom. (Share this!) By remaining calm and tackling only the current moment rather than bringing in past emotions and angry reactions, you will also be showing your students/children how to calm down in any given situation—an important life skill for everyone to master.
Try it and you will see the change. Our children are the future..they deserve it.